Retreat to Healing

Uncategorized Nov 06, 2020

Spirit, Mind & Body Wellness

by Derek O'Neill

We live with many expectations and responsibilities, along with technology and other forms of stimuli that keep us wired – sometimes literally! Many people are afraid to get off the cycle of a stress-inducing mindset, and yet its fallout can keep us from what we really need to be happy. Ironically, learning to do less can actually bring more to your life. We work and play better when we prioritize, simplify, and focus.

Negative feelings thrive in the atmosphere of tension and anxiety, and the long- term effects can be very detrimental to your overall health. “Switching off” means to stop, look at what is truly important, and tap into self-care and compassion. You must make a conscious decision to deal with stress as it arises. You need to plan your life in a way that allows you to move through the inevitable challenges we all face – big and small – with calmness and serenity.

Before you can do anything...

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Finding the Courage to Grieve

by Derek O'Neill

Loss and death visits all of us. Grief comes, and then goes, only to arrive again. If we continue to treat grief as something to avoid we are not only fooling ourselves, but also hurting ourselves. If there is no acceptance, there is no healing. You cannot control how loss shows up. In our experience of death, we can wish for only peaceful endings of long lives within the circle of people we care about, but there is no immunity from sudden and traumatic events. Accepting this truth at times of happiness is even more valuable than realizing it when there is a loss.

Death is the most difficult loss to accept. Different cultures have practices and rituals. Seeing the body after death is a common tool to help the mind – that can often go into denial to self-protect from pain – and acknowledge the reality of the loss. Ceremonies, sacraments, and rites serve an important purpose for both individuals and communities, but even with available outlets, accepting...

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Spiritual Teachings on Wealth & Desire

by Derek O'Neill

Many different spiritual paths and teachings include reflections on desire and attachment, and how it can keep us from our truth. Across the spectrum of thought, belief about higher desires – to do good and let go of lower desires – is a common thread. Being human means we experience desire. In order to live a spiritual existence, we have to look at desire and begin to define it differently for ourselves, and for the world.

If we trace back where desires come from, we find attachment and the fear that drives it. We are scared that we will not have love, or money, or status. We can even become attached to anger and resentment, sadness, or other emotions. Attachment exaggerates and distorts what we think we must have, and creates even more desire. More desire creates more attachments. It is a cycle that manifests into suffering.

 

THE ROLE OF KARMA

Desire is a natural part of being human. Wanting something is not “wrong” or unnatural....

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Love Begins With You

SOULMATE OR CELLMATE?

by Derek O'Neill

It is hard to have a satisfying partnership if your ego is out of alignment with love. What do I mean by that? As you sit with yourself, your feelings, your past experiences, and your self-image, it is common to want to deflect, avoid or ignore the things that cause us fear, lack of confidence and a feeling of being incomplete.

When you push away the part of your ego you’d rather not deal with, it is very hard to feel self-love and acceptance.

If we come to a relationship thinking we can align our ego “separate” from our partner, rather than “with” our partner, we are running from our shadows, which will manifest in disharmony. You must embrace who you are before you can enter a partnership. That’s not about being what you perceive as “perfect” or “issue-free.” It’s knowing that when two people get together they bring their baggage with them. Unpacking it is what a relationship...

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Behind The Smoke Screen

INSIGHTFUL PERSPECTIVES TO QUIT SMOKING

by Derek O'Neill

Do you remember where you were when you had your first cigarette? Even if you can’t recall, think about that time in your life. What was going on? Chances are that when you began your habit, those cigarettes created a figurative smoke screen, hiding something you didn’t want to face. When smoking begins at a young age, it’s often a lack of confidence or need to connect your identity to your peer group. Though it may have been an unsurprising result of wanting to feel mature, the habit then took on more psychological and physical elements.

Over time, smoking becomes connected to relaxation, the irony being that nicotine is actually a stimulant. It’s the deep breath that you take when you smoke that confuses and solidifies the message your mind gives you. People continue to smoke because they become programmed that it is a relaxing thing to do! What other needs are seemingly being met by smoking? If you...

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Combat Stress With The Healing Power of Meditation

When Tensions Rise

by Derek O'Neill

When you’re in the thick of stressful emotions, it’s very difficult to make a clear decision. When you’re angry and anxious, that’s not the time to have an important conversation with somebody. That’s a battle, not a conversation!  The ability to step back and observe what is happening to you at any given moment is empowering. The next time you feel stressed, try stepping back. It will take practice, but in time the reflex of observation can become automatic.

Finding Your Way Back to Serenity

The reason why people routinely pray, meditate, or have a contemplative discipline is to learn a way to always find a calm space. When something triggers them and they need to know the way back to serenity, they can tap into it at any time. You have to train your mind and body to know when stress is becoming overwhelming.

Our attention needs direction and purpose. Left to its own devices it will stray from what we want it to...

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Anxiety: When Fear & Stress Collide

What is anxiety? Is it just another word for stress? Anxiety and stress may seem similar but think of anxiety as the sensation – sometimes long-term – that stress leaves you with.

by Derek O'Neill

When we feel anxious, we are dipping into our personal storehouse of responses to triggers, and that becomes a habit. Anxiety may on a rare occasion stop us from acting on something we should steer clear of and think about, but for the most part, anxiety is causing us to put a barrier between ourselves and the ability to look at something with a clear head so we can figure out what triggered our feelings.


3 WAYS ANXIETY AFFECTS OUR LIVES

Emotional Manifestation

The first is the emotional manifestation of anxiety; our feelings that occur as reactions to people, places and things, whether ongoing or new.

Psychological Anxiety

The second is psychological anxiety that is rooted in what has happened to us in the past, how we were raised, and events that have transpired in our...

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The Art of Manifestation

What can you do to manifest something for yourself? Or how can you manifest something that will become big enough to share with somebody else?

by Derek O'Neill

Based on the absolute truth we are all are creating our reality, from illnesses, to your lifestyle and the very situations that come and go out of our lives. As individuals if we are creating all this stuff, then you can imagine how much more powerful it gets if as a community when we all begin to click in to the same consciousness whether it is positive or negative.

Some of the older generation might remember a time, I certainly do, I can remember a time when I slept in a bedroom with five brothers with a blanket thrown over us and, honest to God, it was amazing! And here’s the thing we survived. And as far as communication goes we were far less distracted by all the materialistic stuff. The technology and all the stuff that’s now being used to entrap us, to keep us entrapped in the prison we have made for...

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Your Anger Belongs To You. Embrace It.

ANGER IS A MESSENGER – LISTEN TO IT

What’s the first thought you have in reaction to the word “anger?” Most people would say that anger is a negative emotion, something they would like to avoid and purge from their lives. Though the goal is to let go of anger, and experience life from a perspective of joy, the first step is to recognize and embrace your anger. What is it telling you?

Don’t fear anger – face it and feel it, and then let it go.

If we ignore anger and shove it aside, we’ll miss a true opportunity to go deeper into ourselves. If we are afraid of these feelings, no matter how uncomfortable it is to sit with them, they will only rise again, misunderstood and toxic to our health, happiness and the energy we put out into the world.

WHERE IT ALL STARTS

Anger emerges with a thought. It all starts there. It feels as if anger forms within us, but in reality, we attract negativity from the outside world. Positive thoughts and outlooks...

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THE CONNECTION BETWEEN LOVE AND TRUST

Has hurt, betrayal, abandonment and disappointment become a forecast in your life?

Love is about trust and most importantly, self-trust. How can you trust anyone else if you don’t believe in yourself? So many people are scared to trust their feelings, their decisions and who they really are. The fear of judgment and rejection can dictate your life. Past hurt, betrayal, abandonment, and/or disappointments can be internalized, and then become a forecast for what you expect in your life. On the surface, remaining fearful, hanging out on the sidelines of love and connection is a self-protective gesture. Who would want to be hurt again? Of course, it makes perfect sense to react this way, but not practical sense if you want to move beyond painful incidents in your past.  Once again, fear is trying to tell you something. Our hearts close when we are fearful. How can we stay open to give and receive love? 

You’ve probably had the experience in life when you’ve...

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