Behind The Smoke Screen

INSIGHTFUL PERSPECTIVES TO QUIT SMOKING

by Derek O'Neill

Do you remember where you were when you had your first cigarette? Even if you can’t recall, think about that time in your life. What was going on? Chances are that when you began your habit, those cigarettes created a figurative smoke screen, hiding something you didn’t want to face. When smoking begins at a young age, it’s often a lack of confidence or need to connect your identity to your peer group. Though it may have been an unsurprising result of wanting to feel mature, the habit then took on more psychological and physical elements.

Over time, smoking becomes connected to relaxation, the irony being that nicotine is actually a stimulant. It’s the deep breath that you take when you smoke that confuses and solidifies the message your mind gives you. People continue to smoke because they become programmed that it is a relaxing thing to do! What other needs are seemingly being met by smoking? If you...

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Combat Stress With The Healing Power of Meditation

When Tensions Rise

by Derek O'Neill

When you’re in the thick of stressful emotions, it’s very difficult to make a clear decision. When you’re angry and anxious, that’s not the time to have an important conversation with somebody. That’s a battle, not a conversation!  The ability to step back and observe what is happening to you at any given moment is empowering. The next time you feel stressed, try stepping back. It will take practice, but in time the reflex of observation can become automatic.

Finding Your Way Back to Serenity

The reason why people routinely pray, meditate, or have a contemplative discipline is to learn a way to always find a calm space. When something triggers them and they need to know the way back to serenity, they can tap into it at any time. You have to train your mind and body to know when stress is becoming overwhelming.

Our attention needs direction and purpose. Left to its own devices it will stray from what we want it to...

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Anxiety: When Fear & Stress Collide

What is anxiety? Is it just another word for stress? Anxiety and stress may seem similar but think of anxiety as the sensation – sometimes long-term – that stress leaves you with.

by Derek O'Neill

When we feel anxious, we are dipping into our personal storehouse of responses to triggers, and that becomes a habit. Anxiety may on a rare occasion stop us from acting on something we should steer clear of and think about, but for the most part, anxiety is causing us to put a barrier between ourselves and the ability to look at something with a clear head so we can figure out what triggered our feelings.


3 WAYS ANXIETY AFFECTS OUR LIVES

Emotional Manifestation

The first is the emotional manifestation of anxiety; our feelings that occur as reactions to people, places and things, whether ongoing or new.

Psychological Anxiety

The second is psychological anxiety that is rooted in what has happened to us in the past, how we were raised, and events that have transpired in our...

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The Art of Manifestation

What can you do to manifest something for yourself? Or how can you manifest something that will become big enough to share with somebody else?

by Derek O'Neill

Based on the absolute truth we are all are creating our reality, from illnesses, to your lifestyle and the very situations that come and go out of our lives. As individuals if we are creating all this stuff, then you can imagine how much more powerful it gets if as a community when we all begin to click in to the same consciousness whether it is positive or negative.

Some of the older generation might remember a time, I certainly do, I can remember a time when I slept in a bedroom with five brothers with a blanket thrown over us and, honest to God, it was amazing! And here’s the thing we survived. And as far as communication goes we were far less distracted by all the materialistic stuff. The technology and all the stuff that’s now being used to entrap us, to keep us entrapped in the prison we have made for...

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Your Anger Belongs To You. Embrace It.

ANGER IS A MESSENGER – LISTEN TO IT

What’s the first thought you have in reaction to the word “anger?” Most people would say that anger is a negative emotion, something they would like to avoid and purge from their lives. Though the goal is to let go of anger, and experience life from a perspective of joy, the first step is to recognize and embrace your anger. What is it telling you?

Don’t fear anger – face it and feel it, and then let it go.

If we ignore anger and shove it aside, we’ll miss a true opportunity to go deeper into ourselves. If we are afraid of these feelings, no matter how uncomfortable it is to sit with them, they will only rise again, misunderstood and toxic to our health, happiness and the energy we put out into the world.

WHERE IT ALL STARTS

Anger emerges with a thought. It all starts there. It feels as if anger forms within us, but in reality, we attract negativity from the outside world. Positive thoughts and outlooks...

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THE CONNECTION BETWEEN LOVE AND TRUST

Has hurt, betrayal, abandonment and disappointment become a forecast in your life?

Love is about trust and most importantly, self-trust. How can you trust anyone else if you don’t believe in yourself? So many people are scared to trust their feelings, their decisions and who they really are. The fear of judgment and rejection can dictate your life. Past hurt, betrayal, abandonment, and/or disappointments can be internalized, and then become a forecast for what you expect in your life. On the surface, remaining fearful, hanging out on the sidelines of love and connection is a self-protective gesture. Who would want to be hurt again? Of course, it makes perfect sense to react this way, but not practical sense if you want to move beyond painful incidents in your past.  Once again, fear is trying to tell you something. Our hearts close when we are fearful. How can we stay open to give and receive love? 

You’ve probably had the experience in life when you’ve...

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KARMA OR SELF-SABOTAGE?

Question to Derek:

“We pursue our dreams with hope and it doesn’t always pan out. Then we develop a set of beliefs that we are flawed or that it’s not our karmic destiny to succeed. How do we know when to carry on and when to quit?”

If you’re running a program that you’re not good enough, you’re not worthy enough or whatever, you need to address it, you need to change it. The only way to do so is with the teachings that say; everything that you want is yours, everything that you need is there, you need only reach out with the hands of truth and love, peace, non-violence, and right conduct. You have to make sure that all of these things are in alignment. You have to go to various levels of understanding in relation to how we manifest and what aspects we manifest.

You often hear me say, “Your mind is creating your reality” and this is an absolutely brilliant teaching because your mind does create your reality. But, to manifest you...

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Faith or Fear, You Decide

by Derek O'Neill

What a lot of people don’t understand is that fear is nothing but a lack of faith. If you have faith that you are good enough, worthy of happiness and strong, nothing can stand in your way. If you have faith, you actually understand that whatever is meant for you will happen – both positive and negative. This is different than deserving good or bad; it means that both will come to you.

With bullying, and other challenges we face from people’s behavior, we can take action, care for ourselves, and even gain a depth of experience that we can perhaps share with others, helping them through their own experiences. But we cannot control what others do, or what events arise for us. The only thing we have power over is ourselves and our minds, and that power is the strongest force of all. We try our best to get away from anything that’s painful, but if you don’t face the pain you’ll never tap into your own power.

It is not the event...

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How To Create Peace

The Source of Peace is Within

by Derek O'Neill

Peace is something we have to create, it is something that we have to take full responsibility for when it’s not there, instead of being the victim, because being a victim cannot create peace or harmony. If you understand that your life is your creation, whether peaceful or non-peaceful, then you being to understand how it works. Each of us have this piece of spongy stuff in our cranium that definitely causes a reaction to experiences we’ve had, specifically in our childhood. When an event happens there is only ever two responses to choose from, you response determines peace or suffering.

So, here’s generally how the system works: we have a conscious mind and we have a sub-conscious mind. We are consciously aware of what we’re doing or think we are, but in fact it’s our unconscious that’s running most of our life. If you feel you are unworthy in life to have a good relationship, a car, a house,...

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The Most Important Ingredient to Healing

The Path To Healing Requires an Open Heart

Although we can understand the ideas behind forgiveness and see its wisdom, the process of bringing forgiveness into our lives and applying it to situations where we are wounded and angry can be challenging.

Having an open heart is the best protection against being hurt. Vulnerability is something we try to avoid, but in reality, looking at each situation and person with an open heart strengthens you no matter if someone harms you or treats you unfairly.

Closing down your heart and never finding it within yourself to learn to forgive doesn’t protect you from pain.

On the contrary, you will ultimately have more suffering if you attach to the anger that arose from the hurt. Vulnerability is one of the greatest strengths a person has. If you are vulnerable, you will never be hurt, but if you are angry and fearful, then hurt is on the way – if it has not already arrived! Vulnerability is having the courage to say to...

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