Love is about trust and most importantly, self-trust. How can you trust anyone else if you don’t believe in yourself? So many people are scared to trust their feelings, their decisions and who they really are. The fear of judgment and rejection can dictate your life. Past hurt, betrayal, abandonment, and/or disappointments can be internalized, and then become a forecast for what you expect in your life. On the surface, remaining fearful, hanging out on the sidelines of love and connection is a self-protective gesture. Who would want to be hurt again? Of course, it makes perfect sense to react this way, but not practical sense if you want to move beyond painful incidents in your past. Once again, fear is trying to tell you something. Our hearts close when we are fearful. How can we stay open to give and receive love?
You’ve probably had the experience in life when you’ve...
Question to Derek:
“We pursue our dreams with hope and it doesn’t always pan out. Then we develop a set of beliefs that we are flawed or that it’s not our karmic destiny to succeed. How do we know when to carry on and when to quit?”
If you’re running a program that you’re not good enough, you’re not worthy enough or whatever, you need to address it, you need to change it. The only way to do so is with the teachings that say; everything that you want is yours, everything that you need is there, you need only reach out with the hands of truth and love, peace, non-violence, and right conduct. You have to make sure that all of these things are in alignment. You have to go to various levels of understanding in relation to how we manifest and what aspects we manifest.
You often hear me say, “Your mind is creating your reality” and this is an absolutely brilliant teaching because your mind does create your reality. But, to manifest you...
by Derek O'Neill
What a lot of people don’t understand is that fear is nothing but a lack of faith. If you have faith that you are good enough, worthy of happiness and strong, nothing can stand in your way. If you have faith, you actually understand that whatever is meant for you will happen – both positive and negative. This is different than deserving good or bad; it means that both will come to you.
With bullying, and other challenges we face from people’s behavior, we can take action, care for ourselves, and even gain a depth of experience that we can perhaps share with others, helping them through their own experiences. But we cannot control what others do, or what events arise for us. The only thing we have power over is ourselves and our minds, and that power is the strongest force of all. We try our best to get away from anything that’s painful, but if you don’t face the pain you’ll never tap into your own power.
It is not the event...
by Derek O'Neill
Peace is something we have to create, it is something that we have to take full responsibility for when it’s not there, instead of being the victim, because being a victim cannot create peace or harmony. If you understand that your life is your creation, whether peaceful or non-peaceful, then you being to understand how it works. Each of us have this piece of spongy stuff in our cranium that definitely causes a reaction to experiences we’ve had, specifically in our childhood. When an event happens there is only ever two responses to choose from, you response determines peace or suffering.
So, here’s generally how the system works: we have a conscious mind and we have a sub-conscious mind. We are consciously aware of what we’re doing or think we are, but in fact it’s our unconscious that’s running most of our life. If you feel you are unworthy in life to have a good relationship, a car, a house,...
Although we can understand the ideas behind forgiveness and see its wisdom, the process of bringing forgiveness into our lives and applying it to situations where we are wounded and angry can be challenging.
Having an open heart is the best protection against being hurt. Vulnerability is something we try to avoid, but in reality, looking at each situation and person with an open heart strengthens you no matter if someone harms you or treats you unfairly.
Closing down your heart and never finding it within yourself to learn to forgive doesn’t protect you from pain.
On the contrary, you will ultimately have more suffering if you attach to the anger that arose from the hurt. Vulnerability is one of the greatest strengths a person has. If you are vulnerable, you will never be hurt, but if you are angry and fearful, then hurt is on the way – if it has not already arrived! Vulnerability is having the courage to say to...
by Derek O'Neill
Desire can be defined as the longing for those things we feel we need or want, but where does it comes from, and where does it lead us? How is desire connected to suffering? How does your past, and your subconscious, play a role? Is the endless chase of empty desires running your life? How do we achieve higher, healthy desires, such as being happier and more loving towards others and ourselves?
If we trace back where desires come from, we find attachment and the fear that drives it. We are scared that we will not have love, or money, or status. We can even become attached to anger and resentment, sadness, or other emotions. Attachment exaggerates and distorts what we think we must have, and creates even more desire. More desire creates more attachments. It is a cycle that manifests into suffering. In order to break the pattern we must begin to learn how to let desires go. When there is less desire, there’s less attachment and more...
How do we truly change what seems to make us unhappy? How many times have you tried to bring about change by attempting to alter external circumstances, without shifting your consciousness about it? Do you try to control your world instead of your mind?
Change begins with a process of thoughts, words, and actions – and our ability to bring consciousness into our daily lives. If we change our thoughts, words and actions, our reality changes. This is the only way to create change for individuals and for the world.
There is a saying that goes, “A man whose thoughts, words and actions are in alignment can never be vexed by anger.” The same follows for any emotion or event that, on its surface, disrupts our happiness.
Our thoughts come from our conscious mind. Our words come from experience; a word is something recalled from a memory. We remember words and we put those words into patterns to express what it is we...
by Derek O'Neill
How can the ways in which we talk to ourselves affect change when it comes to breaking an addiction? The power of the voice you use to address your mind is an essential element to let go and see your life in a whole new light. While digging deeper into why you formed your addiction, and how the dynamics of the past manifest in a negative way, it’s so important that you practice and reinforce affirmative thinking and self-declarations of strength and courage. That is where willpower starts and grows.
Willpower is literally the willingness to detach from what we think makes us feel happy and safe, temporarily, and instead, find lasting contentment.
It’s easy to frame the things you say about yourself in the negative in relation to addiction. When we try to stop the behavior, proclaiming “I won’t smoke anymore,” or “I can’t have that chocolate bar,” or “I can’t fall off the wagon...
by Constance Kellough
Namaste Publishing Founder and Publisher of Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now.
There are many different meditation practices originating from various spiritual and secular traditions. Most, however, stress the importance of quieting the compulsive thinking mind, which wanders on average 50 times in 5 minutes. This on - going thinking - often unsettling, non - productive and not related to what we are experiencing in the present moment - usually emanates from some level of egoic fear and pulls us into the past or the future.
In order to feel the stillness which is always within us now but usually covered up by compulsive and mesmerizing self-talk, we endeavor to quiet the mind through various means.
Stillness rises on its own when there is no thought. Eckhart Tolle has said, “Stillness is the language God speaks.”
We crave to experience blessed stillness. Why? Because stillness is our natural state;...
Everyone struggles between awareness and judgment. Awareness just is. Judgment is not. Awareness and judgment are a double-edged sword with an extraordinarily sharp blade. The way to know the difference between the two is to feel it in your body. The discernment of awareness has no fear. It just is.
The discernment of judgment cuts hard, and when you find out you judged wrong, it creates pain. If you want to know the difference between the two, it is a feeling. Awareness is sent down the tube of easy reality. Judgment is sent down the tube of your will. The most important awareness is to be aware that you are not aware of anything.
What is causing most of the pain is judgment. Judgment comes from information from others, gleaned from others in this lifetime and past. Judgment causes a lot of pain. Judgment comes from comparing yourself to others.
If we take the word judgment and transfer it to conditioning, well, then you know why you are here. You have come here to have your...