by Derek O'Neill
Feeling pain and hurt is the only way to truly see that you are the one that gives it size and shape in your life.
Forgiveness is a powerful, often misunderstood, human experience. When we have been hurt or wronged by someone, one of the most natural reactions is to feel anger. If the anger persists, it can lead to deep resentments that may affect us for years. The idea of forgiving the offending party can seem impossible, unfair, and perhaps too difficult to even consider.
While forgiving others can begin with an understanding of what happened, and draw from a wide range of spiritual teachings about human nature, it is important to understand that forgiveness benefits you more than anyone else. We give a gift to ourselves when we forgive. No matter how serious the action that harmed us, working towards the goal of forgiveness will heal your heart and soul in a way that no person or event can ever take from you. Being a forgiving person...
by Brook Still
There is a term that we use called a natural born leader, which is not the same as a powerful leader. Natural born leaders have the pulse on what will inspire others around them and they can hold a space of connection that makes people feel at ease with them. Most of them can also motivate others around them to really want to step up and play with what they are presenting to them. As awesome as this is, this does not automatically make them a powerful leader. It may make them a great cheerleader or presenter to get a group excited about a product or event,but without the skills of leadership they don’t usually get anywhere.
Powerful leaders on the other hand, use both their intuition and a powerful formula of skills to not only inspire people, but to help them start to problem solve as a team to look for different ways to move beyond the status quo. They are on fire, they are passionate, they have an inner inertia that gets them motivated to move forward and...
by Derek O'Neill
What does it mean to be authentic in who you are? And what kind of challenges might you face by taking on the task of being authentically who you are?
Being authentic means looking at yourself in a critical way. Not criticizing, just having a critical eye, the same way you would ask someone to give you feedback or healthy criticism. Eventually we may even get to a stage where we realize that we are programmed to lie to ourselves the majority of the time. Our family, friends and environment all contribute to how we think we should think and feel – but how do we know when we are authentic to ourselves?
Being authentic is knowing that what you wear doesn’t make you who you are. Neither does the material things you have, nor where you come from or who your family is… All of that just creates a false sense of self you identify with. Who you really are transcends all of those programs.
The closer we get to our...
by Derek O'Neill
When you step back from your stress and the emotions that come with it, you are practicing positive detachment. If there are changes we can make, such as learning to say “no,” or not over-scheduling ourselves, or looking for help with a task that has us extended beyond our ability, we can lower our stress. Yet no matter how much or how little the shape of our external life can be rearranged, the internal shift is the most important. The same events and situations that cause you stress can be emotionally detached from in a healthy way. Detaching doesn’t mean you no longer care, or that you are just going through the motions. It means that you don’t allow the external world to trigger you. When stepping back from negative emotions becomes a new habit, you begin to clearly see that you have a choice in how stress affects you.
We think that we have certain material things, or are in a perfect...