by Derek O'Neill
Desire can be defined as the longing for those things we feel we need or want, but where does it comes from, and where does it lead us? How is desire connected to suffering? How does your past, and your subconscious, play a role? Is the endless chase of empty desires running your life? How do we achieve higher, healthy desires, such as being happier and more loving towards others and ourselves?
If we trace back where desires come from, we find attachment and the fear that drives it. We are scared that we will not have love, or money, or status. We can even become attached to anger and resentment, sadness, or other emotions. Attachment exaggerates and distorts what we think we must have, and creates even more desire. More desire creates more attachments. It is a cycle that manifests into suffering. In order to break the pattern we must begin to learn how to let desires go. When there is less desire, there’s less attachment and more...
by Derek O'Neill
How can the ways in which we talk to ourselves affect change when it comes to breaking an addiction? The power of the voice you use to address your mind is an essential element to let go and see your life in a whole new light. While digging deeper into why you formed your addiction, and how the dynamics of the past manifest in a negative way, it’s so important that you practice and reinforce affirmative thinking and self-declarations of strength and courage. That is where willpower starts and grows.
Willpower is literally the willingness to detach from what we think makes us feel happy and safe, temporarily, and instead, find lasting contentment.
It’s easy to frame the things you say about yourself in the negative in relation to addiction. When we try to stop the behavior, proclaiming “I won’t smoke anymore,” or “I can’t have that chocolate bar,” or “I can’t fall off the wagon...