Love is about trust and most importantly, self-trust. How can you trust anyone else if you don’t believe in yourself? So many people are scared to trust their feelings, their decisions and who they really are. The fear of judgment and rejection can dictate your life. Past hurt, betrayal, abandonment, and/or disappointments can be internalized, and then become a forecast for what you expect in your life. On the surface, remaining fearful, hanging out on the sidelines of love and connection is a self-protective gesture. Who would want to be hurt again? Of course, it makes perfect sense to react this way, but not practical sense if you want to move beyond painful incidents in your past. Once again, fear is trying to tell you something. Our hearts close when we are fearful. How can we stay open to give and receive love?
You’ve probably had the experience in life when you’ve...
Question to Derek:
“We pursue our dreams with hope and it doesn’t always pan out. Then we develop a set of beliefs that we are flawed or that it’s not our karmic destiny to succeed. How do we know when to carry on and when to quit?”
If you’re running a program that you’re not good enough, you’re not worthy enough or whatever, you need to address it, you need to change it. The only way to do so is with the teachings that say; everything that you want is yours, everything that you need is there, you need only reach out with the hands of truth and love, peace, non-violence, and right conduct. You have to make sure that all of these things are in alignment. You have to go to various levels of understanding in relation to how we manifest and what aspects we manifest.
You often hear me say, “Your mind is creating your reality” and this is an absolutely brilliant teaching because your mind does create your reality. But, to manifest you...
by Derek O'Neill
What a lot of people don’t understand is that fear is nothing but a lack of faith. If you have faith that you are good enough, worthy of happiness and strong, nothing can stand in your way. If you have faith, you actually understand that whatever is meant for you will happen – both positive and negative. This is different than deserving good or bad; it means that both will come to you.
With bullying, and other challenges we face from people’s behavior, we can take action, care for ourselves, and even gain a depth of experience that we can perhaps share with others, helping them through their own experiences. But we cannot control what others do, or what events arise for us. The only thing we have power over is ourselves and our minds, and that power is the strongest force of all. We try our best to get away from anything that’s painful, but if you don’t face the pain you’ll never tap into your own power.
It is not the event...
by Derek O'Neill
Peace is something we have to create, it is something that we have to take full responsibility for when it’s not there, instead of being the victim, because being a victim cannot create peace or harmony. If you understand that your life is your creation, whether peaceful or non-peaceful, then you being to understand how it works. Each of us have this piece of spongy stuff in our cranium that definitely causes a reaction to experiences we’ve had, specifically in our childhood. When an event happens there is only ever two responses to choose from, you response determines peace or suffering.
So, here’s generally how the system works: we have a conscious mind and we have a sub-conscious mind. We are consciously aware of what we’re doing or think we are, but in fact it’s our unconscious that’s running most of our life. If you feel you are unworthy in life to have a good relationship, a car, a house,...
How do we truly change what seems to make us unhappy? How many times have you tried to bring about change by attempting to alter external circumstances, without shifting your consciousness about it? Do you try to control your world instead of your mind?
Change begins with a process of thoughts, words, and actions – and our ability to bring consciousness into our daily lives. If we change our thoughts, words and actions, our reality changes. This is the only way to create change for individuals and for the world.
There is a saying that goes, “A man whose thoughts, words and actions are in alignment can never be vexed by anger.” The same follows for any emotion or event that, on its surface, disrupts our happiness.
Our thoughts come from our conscious mind. Our words come from experience; a word is something recalled from a memory. We remember words and we put those words into patterns to express what it is we...
by Constance Kellough
Namaste Publishing Founder and Publisher of Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now.
There are many different meditation practices originating from various spiritual and secular traditions. Most, however, stress the importance of quieting the compulsive thinking mind, which wanders on average 50 times in 5 minutes. This on - going thinking - often unsettling, non - productive and not related to what we are experiencing in the present moment - usually emanates from some level of egoic fear and pulls us into the past or the future.
In order to feel the stillness which is always within us now but usually covered up by compulsive and mesmerizing self-talk, we endeavor to quiet the mind through various means.
Stillness rises on its own when there is no thought. Eckhart Tolle has said, “Stillness is the language God speaks.”
We crave to experience blessed stillness. Why? Because stillness is our natural state;...
by Derek O'Neill
When we open up the definition of the word ‘relationships’ to a wider and very important way of thinking, relationships with other people are just one piece of the puzzle. If we come to see that ALL of the relationships in our lives – to family, friends, your community, the world, your emotions, your belief systems, food, addictions, and even the family pet – are barometers of how we coexist in an intimate relationship we will expand our minds and have a better understanding of what connection means.
When you study and realize an approach to life that expands your consciousness and gives you a foundation, you are grounded within your own heart and soul. You have a lot to give someone else because you are fulfilled on your own. When you commit to really going deeper, into whatever belief system or mode you choose, you’re tapping into your abundant ability to love yourself, and others. If you never take the time to work at these things...
by Derek O'Neill
Consciousness is a huge topic, with as many interpretations of what it means. There’s the scientific view of consciousness which looks at details of the brain and its functions. Consciousness is also defined as our thinking, our perceptions, our system of beliefs and spirituality, and the entirety of our self-reflection. Though our reality seems dependent on what our external world looks like – where we live, our relationships, our economic situation, etc. – in truth, it’s our consciousness that creates our reality and determines what the external world is serving up at any given time.
The manifestation of your state of mind – your consciousness – influences your life in every conceivable way. Your consciousness will always be a stronger force than the external world around...
by Brook Still
Have you ever wondered why an event that happens can seem to be so much easier or harder from one person to the next in the same circumstance? A great example is having a relationship end and for one person it seems to be excruciating and for the other they may be a little sad yet moving forward quickly. Why the varying degrees of suffering? Let’s look at suffering first and then we’ll breakdown the varying degrees.
Here is the basic principle behind suffering; everyone suffers and as much as we all would like to avoid it, suffering seems to be an inherent part of life itself. The Buddha himself stated, “All I teach is suffering and the end of suffering”. Even with a brilliant master and so many teachings we are still swimming in the scummy pond of suffering. So let’s break this down into something much simpler, let’s stop over thinking, wash off the scum, and go for a swim in the clean clear waters of the ocean of liberation. Now...
by Derek O'Neill
Your mind listens to everything that you say. It will manifest whatever it is – good, bad or anything in-between – in vast amounts. In other words, if you have a mentality of abundance, you will have an abundance of it! The same is true for living in fear and a state of lack. That fear will feed on itself, as your mind is incredibly powerful. What you say to your mind, including positive affirmations, is important to shift your perspective away from a mentality of scarcity.
Our lives are manifest by words, and the words in your mind are what your consciousness is powered by. Everything starts with a single thought. The sequence of those thoughts is what makes the difference on how you manifest what you want.
Here’s a technique to begin creating a connection between words and affecting change in your life: Start with a thought, and then speak it out loud. For example, “I would like to meet people who...