by Derek O'Neill
Peace is something we have to create, it is something that we have to take full responsibility for when it’s not there, instead of being the victim, because being a victim cannot create peace or harmony. If you understand that your life is your creation, whether peaceful or non-peaceful, then you being to understand how it works. Each of us have this piece of spongy stuff in our cranium that definitely causes a reaction to experiences we’ve had, specifically in our childhood. When an event happens there is only ever two responses to choose from, you response determines peace or suffering.
So, here’s generally how the system works: we have a conscious mind and we have a sub-conscious mind. We are consciously aware of what we’re doing or think we are, but in fact it’s our unconscious that’s running most of our life. If you feel you are unworthy in life to have a good relationship, a car, a house,...
How do we truly change what seems to make us unhappy? How many times have you tried to bring about change by attempting to alter external circumstances, without shifting your consciousness about it? Do you try to control your world instead of your mind?
Change begins with a process of thoughts, words, and actions – and our ability to bring consciousness into our daily lives. If we change our thoughts, words and actions, our reality changes. This is the only way to create change for individuals and for the world.
There is a saying that goes, “A man whose thoughts, words and actions are in alignment can never be vexed by anger.” The same follows for any emotion or event that, on its surface, disrupts our happiness.
Our thoughts come from our conscious mind. Our words come from experience; a word is something recalled from a memory. We remember words and we put those words into patterns to express what it is we...
by Derek O'Neill
How can the ways in which we talk to ourselves affect change when it comes to breaking an addiction? The power of the voice you use to address your mind is an essential element to let go and see your life in a whole new light. While digging deeper into why you formed your addiction, and how the dynamics of the past manifest in a negative way, it’s so important that you practice and reinforce affirmative thinking and self-declarations of strength and courage. That is where willpower starts and grows.
Willpower is literally the willingness to detach from what we think makes us feel happy and safe, temporarily, and instead, find lasting contentment.
It’s easy to frame the things you say about yourself in the negative in relation to addiction. When we try to stop the behavior, proclaiming “I won’t smoke anymore,” or “I can’t have that chocolate bar,” or “I can’t fall off the wagon...
by Derek O'Neill
When you step back from your stress and the emotions that come with it, you are practicing positive detachment. If there are changes we can make, such as learning to say “no,” or not over-scheduling ourselves, or looking for help with a task that has us extended beyond our ability, we can lower our stress. Yet no matter how much or how little the shape of our external life can be rearranged, the internal shift is the most important. The same events and situations that cause you stress can be emotionally detached from in a healthy way. Detaching doesn’t mean you no longer care, or that you are just going through the motions. It means that you don’t allow the external world to trigger you. When stepping back from negative emotions becomes a new habit, you begin to clearly see that you have a choice in how stress affects you.
We think that we have certain material things, or are in a perfect...