by Derek O'Neill
Feeling pain and hurt is the only way to truly see that you are the one that gives it size and shape in your life.
Forgiveness is a powerful, often misunderstood, human experience. When we have been hurt or wronged by someone, one of the most natural reactions is to feel anger. If the anger persists, it can lead to deep resentments that may affect us for years. The idea of forgiving the offending party can seem impossible, unfair, and perhaps too difficult to even consider.
While forgiving others can begin with an understanding of what happened, and draw from a wide range of spiritual teachings about human nature, it is important to understand that forgiveness benefits you more than anyone else. We give a gift to ourselves when we forgive. No matter how serious the action that harmed us, working towards the goal of forgiveness will heal your heart and soul in a way that no person or event can ever take from you. Being a forgiving person...
by Derek O'Neill
What does it mean to be authentic in who you are? And what kind of challenges might you face by taking on the task of being authentically who you are?
Being authentic means looking at yourself in a critical way. Not criticizing, just having a critical eye, the same way you would ask someone to give you feedback or healthy criticism. Eventually we may even get to a stage where we realize that we are programmed to lie to ourselves the majority of the time. Our family, friends and environment all contribute to how we think we should think and feel – but how do we know when we are authentic to ourselves?
Being authentic is knowing that what you wear doesn’t make you who you are. Neither does the material things you have, nor where you come from or who your family is… All of that just creates a false sense of self you identify with. Who you really are transcends all of those programs.
The closer we get to our...